This video from facebook is from a young Australian woman who lost her life to cancer at the age of 27.
When I first saw it I was so touched. Most of us don’t “live” our lives, aren’t mindful about our experiences and lose our perspective instead focusing on our career, our next house, managing our debts. We can all learn some lessons from this young woman’s wise words.
I’ve transcribed the words below the video.
27 year old dies tragically from cancer, then her family discovers message on Facebook from 24 hours earlier ❤️
Posted by Sharing is Caring on Thursday, 18 January 2018
When holly was 26, she was told she was dying of cancer…
She decided to post a farewell letter…
Less that 24 hours afrer she uploaded it…she passed away
Now her words are inspring prople all over the world..
It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; until the unexpected happens.
I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey, most likley caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) that I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts. That’s the thing about life; it is fragile, precious and unpredictable, and each day is a gift, not a given right.
I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.
I havent started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared. I like the fact that we are mostly ifnorate to its inevitability, except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never hapen to any of us. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember tht we all have the same fate after all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.
I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of tiem to ponder life these last few months. Of course, it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop into my head most! Those times you are whinging about rediculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just thinking about someone who is really facing a problem. Br grateful for your minor issues and get over it. It’s ok to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively affect other people’s days. Once you do that, get out there and take a feaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in you lungs. Look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; it is so beautiful. This how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe. You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, of you have cellulite on your arse, and your belly is wobbling. Let all that shit go. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all so insignificant when you look at life as a whole.
I’m wathcing my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it. And all I wish for now is that I could have just one more birthday or Christmas with my family, of just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.
I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise. Be grateful you are physically abot to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things, until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.
I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body – even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it. Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body, work jsut as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stuipidly portrayed perfect social media body really is. Whiel on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you and sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not. Be ruthless for your own well-being. Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain, and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back, or a spraied ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.
Whinge less, people! And help each other more.
Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more.
Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; more that I could ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.
It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go our and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we thing it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding.
- No one cares if you wear the same thing twice
- It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/buy them a plant, a massage or a candle, and tell them you love them when you give it to them.
Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.
Use your money on experiences, or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spend all your money on material shit. Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water. Get amongst nature.
Try just enjoying and beign in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of you phone. Lift isn’t meant to be lived through a screen not is it avout getting the perfect photo. Enjoy the bloody moment people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.
Random thoretical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and makeup each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about feemales.
Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beuatiful colours the sun makes as it rises.
Listen to music, really listen. Music is therapy, old is best.
Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.
Talk to your firends. Put down your phone. Are they doing ok?
Work to live don’t live to work. Seriously do what makes your heart feel happy. Eat the cake. Zero guilt. Say no to things you really don’t want to do.
Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is ta fulfilling life, you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay!
Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance, and love them with everything you have.
Also, remember if somethign is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it – in work or love of whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t wast it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be mroe true.
Anyways, that’s justa this one young gal’s life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!
Oh, and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is somethign that is so overlooked considering every donation can save three lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple. Blood donation (more bags thatn I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive an extra year, a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend here on earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.
‘Til we meet again